We decry unthinking conformity — conformity for its own sake. Ultimately unexamined conformity leads to industrial abuse — especially parents and teachers abusing children on a community scale.
But pure abandon is no good either. Ultimately that leads to abuse, too — of people abusing their bodies with street drugs and excessive alcohol, and of people abusing each other through relationships that lack any element of responsibility.
We seek the middle ground between the extremes of being rigid and regimented on one end and being unbridled on the other.
It’s probably best exemplified by Abraham being ready to serve G-d without question while he lived a nomadic existence.